It’s not the reason you think. — (Author’s note: If you’re thinking of joining Medium to read more articles by me and other great writers, you can sign up through my link here. Your subscription will directly support my work!) I’m particular about my bathing suits: long shorts, and shirts that cover the midriff and cleavage. You…

Lately, I’ve been waking up flushed every day, my body humming from a streak of steamy dreams. I can still taste the sweat, the heat. I feel charged. Electrified. And I’m not sure quite what to do with it. Honestly, it’s jarring. I’ve spent the last six years pregnant, nursing…

In January 2021, I stopped writing. I told myself I didn’t have the time — and as a pandemic-era parent of a special needs kid, that was true enough. But what’s truer is, I didn’t have the fire for it. I was sputtering out. The thought of exposing whatever spark…

I have kids, and I’m glad I do, but I read plenty of women who don’t. (Yael Wolfe is currently my favorite, but I’ll certainly take recommendations in the comments.) In listening to childfree women, I’ve learned some things. Many of you chose not to have kids. Some of you…

A new, depressing normal for the digital workforce — I just left a company that I worked at for five years. When I started there, the whole team could fit into a decent conference room, and at the end of the day I went home to my new baby. Now, the company has 150 employees, and I have two…

Let’s call it what it really is — My 4-year-old made a fort under the dining room table with her little sister. They were hidden from sight, but every once in a while they burst into laughter. I commented to my husband how cute it was to listen to them giggle under there. He smiled and agreed. 10…

Who’s really blank here? I have a thousand words clawing their way up my throat, but they’ve been there for ages and keep slipping back down. I’m bone tired. I don’t care enough. I haven’t posted in over a year. I spent this year getting my kindergartener into special education—a…

It’s not the people who used to. — With the possible exception of Tim Denning, the Medium heavyweights of yore are watching their earning crater under the new system. Shaunta Grimes is making 90% less than she used to. Shannon Ashley notes that her stats are worst they‘ve been in years. I was doing fine, too—after just a…